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Articles of wisdom written by our renowned counsellors.

Smart phone addiction is like a disease or disorder. This term refers obsessive behaviour that disturbs their normal day to day activities. It is similar to drug addiction. Spending so much time on a smart phone, the teenager’s mood suddenly changes and may become intensely blank, forgetting, stressed, anxious, irritable, angry, violent, not responding in conversation, secretive behaviour, staying up till late night or laying on bed all day long…

Present day teachers are fighting an uphill task handling present generation children because of drastic change in the society. The world of work is ever changing. There surely is emphasis on the competition, pressure to achieve targets and meet deadlines or to keep up with the rapid advancement in technology, modified vast syllabus and extra responsibilities along with handling personal life. Expectation from teachers is very high. What teachers are looking for is someone who appreciates for who they are and not just what they do…

Raising self-esteem is a vital factor in learning to thrive on stress. If we possess high self-esteem, we feel good about who we are. We can take criticism in our stride, don’t get overwhelmed by feelings, and are less likely to over-react to stressful situations…

Teaching children about sexuality may seem straightforward: Just give them the facts about things like anatomy, reproduction and contraception. But your child wants more than facts: Children need to know what their parents think about topics like premarital sex, abortion and homosexuality and what are your values? In surveys, children want to learn about sexuality from their parents, but that their parents don’t talk to them enough. Even though many children never ask questions about sexuality, they still want to know…

Teenagers resent long explanation, blaming and accusing, name calling, threats, orders, lecturing and moralizing, warnings, martyrdom, comparisons, sarcasm, and prophecy. They prefer a single word with respect and understanding their feelings. The difficulty does not lie in refusal to communicate but it lies in the adults’ inability to adequately understand the information received…

Each child is created as a unique and gifted individual. Even those born with severe physical limitations have been endowed with some wonderful talents, gifts and qualities. When children enter school, it looks like a school full of raw material. Thinkers, dreamers, planners, motivators, creators, doers, etc. If these children are handled and molded carefully, they will come out as talented, resourceful persons with hearts and minds to change the world…

People who are contemplating suicide go back and forth, thinking about life and death. It gives them hope when they know that they can be helped, that there are treatments available for their illness, that isn’t their fault and that they are not alone…

Sexual abuse is the most troubling type of abuse. Here, an adult uses a child for his sexual pleasure. He may touch the child’s sexual organs, make the child touch his sexual organs or even try to have sexual intercourse with the child. Both boys and girls can be abused. The most common person to abuse a child is someone the child knows well. The adults take advantage of their close relationship and control over the child…

No amount of worry, anxiety, tension or stress can change the future. No amount of guilt, regret, resentment, grievances or hurt can change the past. The only way is to learn to live in the present moment…

One has to remember that only academic performance is not sufficient for a successful life. Overall development is very important. It is essential to build their self esteem and confidence levels and motivate them to improve their academic performance. The students must be made aware of their strength and helped to work on those strong points. Also identify the cause for their low performance and help the students to work on those areas…

In order to understand why children, do what they do., we should understand why children misbehave. Just like a good doctor tries to determine the cause for a fever before treating it, so also Parents and Teachers should know the reason for a particular misbehaviour so that they can intervene accordingly…

When an elderly person starts behaving in an unusual manner, it causes the family a great deal of distress. Caring for an elderly person with dementia can be a very stressful experience. A caretaker often needs counseling to understand elderly persons and their needs. It is necessary to educate the caretaker about dementia and what to expect from them…

Beating a child shows that it is okay to hit when angry and it models a wrong kind of behavior. It makes the victim seek revenge because nobody likes to be hit. It may stop the misbehavior for the moment, but it does not teach the child what to do in the future…

The great teachers of all times didn’t just teach others; they influenced them, with their lives as well as their teachings, which still have an impact on individuals and societies. Great teachers do not produce a product; they produce an effect by their devotion, commitment, compassion and diligence…

Education is the key to the progress of any society. Though we have adequate schools in our state and country this has not ascertained that all children will learn. Many children either drop out of school early or get pushed up the class ladder through a system of ‘rote learning’ and ‘rote production’ at examination without really learning. Eventually they are unable to cope in school and finally give up studying…

Career plays an important role in one’s life. For many, work itself establishes personal identity, to meet social need, to get satisfaction through accomplishments and to find a purpose and meaning in life. Choice of the right stream and career can give a person a meaningful, comfortable and interesting life…

Our education system is such that what is done in the whole year is to be written in 3hrs exam and through the results we justify their abilities or label them. Most of the students feel anxious for this kind of exams and results…

Parents of teenagers feel confused on how to help when help is resented, how to guide when guidance is rejected, how to communicate when they show deaf ears or attention taken as attack…

Every parent want their kids to be the best, perfectly behaved, well dressed, competitive, top his/her class with A+ grades and so on. We seem to expect perfection. In pursuit of this perfection we pressurize and push the children beyond what they can cope up. As a result the child feels lost and confused…

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